What can you accomplish in a year? A lot! You can learn a new instrument, you can train for a marathon, the options are endless! But, let’s slow it down a bit: what can you do in a month? There are a lot of days and weeks in there, so great things SHOULD happen. The thing is, whether we have a day or a year, life happens. Whether we are focused on the moment or concerned about tomorrow, life happens. So, whether or not we learn, or grow, or better ourselves, life happens.
We all get busy and forget to live life because in reality, we let life live us. How do we break this mold? By doing something completely different than what you’re used to. I’m a huge fan of what I like to call the “Rule of Insanity”. The rule of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results. For instance, say you’re overweight and you spend a lot of your free time eating butter filled popsicles and lying on the couch. Well, even though you may ‘want’ to lose weight and get in shape, unless you CHANGE what you’re doing, you’ll never get there. This ideal can be applied to everyone, no matter where they are in life. One thing I’ve come to discover is that most of the time when I look back at the past year, or month, or week, I don’t see a lot of great action or achievement on my part, but rather, I see life happening and me just being a participant.
Life, as crazy as it may be at times, can quickly turn into moments of a perpetual routine of events. Sort of like the movie Groundhog Day: you wake up at a certain time, drink your coffee, go to work, come home, eat dinner and go to bed. But LIFE is still happening even in the most mundane moments. So what can we do to make sure we are active participants in OUR life? What can we change that will help us to become better?
Well, over the past few weeks I’ve collected challenges from some great people. For this ’31 Days to a Better You’ challenge I am going to be picking one challenge out of a hat and that will be my focus for the next day. The goal within these 31 Days is to think outside the box and become a better husband, father, friend and worker. I hope to be an active participant in my life, and that at the end of each day I can say “you know, I was really present today. I really pushed myself today”. And, at the end of the challenge I hope to say that because of it I am a better person.
No matter what we do, we can never stop life from happening. We can’t slow it down, we can’t hit pause. But what we can do is get off the couch, put down the popsicle and BECOME the change we are so desperately wanting. So please, come along with me as I challenge myself to be a better me. And hopefully at the end of the first day, the second week or day 31 you can say, “you know…I now know what I need to do to become a better person, a happier person, a healthier person.”
The first challenge of my “31 Days to a Better You” is to “Not say no to my son whenever he asks me to play with him, cuddle with him or do anything with him.” I really like this challenge. It is so easy to get extremely busy or preoccupied with life, or cell phones or tv shows that I forget the beauty that’s right in front of me: my family. While I may not give my son, Carson, all the candy he wants today, I will play blocks with him, watch Bubble Guppies with him and do whatever he wants. It is in doing the things we usually don’t that we’ll be able to experience the things we never have. I’ll update tomorrow morning on how the first day day! Boom. Let’s do this!
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